Usually, when a disagreement arises between a couple, the biggest problem is that nobody really listens to the other person; everyone’s just merely waiting for his or her turn to talk.
By the way, active listening also means you must stop doing anything else besides giving your undivided attention to your partner: No texting, checking your emails, doing your nails, etc. When you have understood what is affecting your partner it is then your turn to talk. When communicating with your partner, if you have any doubt about what has just been said or you’re still not sure what is making your partner upset, ASK.
But do so as respectfully as possible, saying something like, “Look, I can see this isn’t going to get any better by discussing it tonight.
Let’s sleep on it and try talking about it with fresh eyes in the morning, okay?
But better communication, because it is a skill, can also be learned.
The most popular myth about communication in relationships is that since you talk to your partner, you’re automatically ), you’re not really communicating about the important stuff.